The Power of Letting Go: Resistance vs. Allowing

I used to think that making things happen was all about pushing hard, staying busy, and being in control. But there’s a lesson I’m learning, and it’s about something that’s way more powerful than all that: allowing. Maybe this sounds strange, but sometimes, the best thing we can do to reach our goals is to stop pushing so much and just let things flow. This idea of resistance versus allowing has been life-changing for me, and I believe it could be for you too.

What Is Resistance?

Imagine life as a river, and we’re floating in it. Without even realizing it, most of us are paddling (struggling) upstream, against the current. When things feel hard or we’re frustrated, that’s usually a sign we’re resisting. Resistance happens when we think thoughts like, “I’m not good enough,” “Things are so hard,” or “I’ll never have what I want.” I'm sure you don't need more examples as we all many of them, but these thoughts are like anchors that keep us from moving forward. And here’s the thing: resistance is not just making life hard emotionally; it can even make us feel unwell physically. Believe me, I know what that feels like. It's like carrying a weight that we don’t need to carry.

What Does “Allowing” Mean?

Allowing is the opposite of resistance; non-resistance. It’s like putting down that heavy backpack and deciding to float downstream, with the current instead of fighting against it. Allowing doesn’t mean we give up on our dreams. It means we trust that good things can come to us, and we feel okay even if we’re not there yet. Imagine saying, “I don’t have everything I want right now, but I’m on my way.” Doesn’t that feel lighter?

An Example from Daily Life

Here’s a simple example: Think about trying to make friends. Have you ever noticed that when you’re too eager or trying too hard, it doesn’t always go well? But when you’re relaxed and just being yourself, friendships happen more naturally. That’s what allowing feels like. It’s not about forcing things, but about trusting that the right things will come at the right time, knowing it.

How Can We Start Letting Go of Resistance?

I’m finding that letting go of resistance can be as simple as noticing how I feel. When something doesn’t feel good, I feel stress, frustration, or simply bored, that’s usually a sign that I’m resisting. Instead of fighting those feelings, I now ask myself, “What’s the best-feeling thought I can think right now?” Sometimes, it’s just a tiny shift, like thinking, “This is tough, but I’ve handled tough things before,” or “It’s okay not to have all the answers right now.”

For example, if I’m worried about money, I can remind myself that I’m still here, feeling happy and grateful that I’ve always managed somehow. This small shift already brings a bit of relief and helps me let go of the stress, even if it's just for a moment.

Becoming Friends with Our Bodies

Another 'place' where I try to practise allowing is with my body. I don't know about you, but in my world it's normal to be critical of your body, but our bodies are actually amazing and resilient. They adapt and heal every single day! Instead of worrying about every little thing, I’m learning to appreciate my body more and to give it what it needs from a place of kindness, not criticism. 

In my journey with the Law of Attraction, I also learn a lot from Abraham Hicks, like when you love your body and you feed your body with love, it doesn’t really matter what you eat. Sounds crazy? It’s all about love and respect for our body and listening to what it needs.

The Power of Feeling Good

Letting go of resistance doesn’t mean ignoring your already manifested reality but choosing thoughts that feel better. When we choose non-resistant thoughts that make us feel hopeful, kind, or peaceful, we’re allowing the natural flow of well-being into our lives. It’s like planting seeds of happiness and watching them grow over time. Remember, resistance is like holding up a “STOP” sign in the face of all the good things we want. When we drop that sign, we open ourselves up to a world of endless possibilities.

It took me 50 years of my life to wake up and start learning. From here on I'll be that student of life for the rest of my life.

With love, Ruud